tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post1233887811299906348..comments2024-02-09T05:30:07.127-05:00Comments on Blogpourri: Gender and nature vs. nurtureUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-79728539293947938082009-03-26T19:39:00.000-04:002009-03-26T19:39:00.000-04:00Interesting post and reference to nature/nurture. ...Interesting post and reference to nature/nurture. I’d be curious about what sociologists would think of my nature vs nurture story, from prison to poetry, so to speak.<BR/>http://muttslikeme.wordpress.com/about/<BR/>Do most people believe that genes really drive behavior?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-35493306797618991592009-03-13T12:16:00.000-04:002009-03-13T12:16:00.000-04:00I relate to this post. sometimes I can't believe m...I relate to this post. sometimes I can't believe my kids come from the same parents. My daughter over the last 6 months has become so girly and now refuses to wear trousers. My son on the other hand is all boy. I remember the first time he picked up a car and started making engine noises he could hardly talk. It is amazing - I don't wear skirts or dresses and yet my daughter has chosen that 2 Brits, 2 Yanks, 2 Dogshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15407901798421787299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-39988712975157370122009-03-10T15:23:00.000-04:002009-03-10T15:23:00.000-04:00Did you see Jon Stewart on David Letterman last we...Did you see Jon Stewart on David Letterman last week? He was talking about the same thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-47584188966767318162009-03-10T12:51:00.000-04:002009-03-10T12:51:00.000-04:00Hmm.. its nature, not gender, I think. My son is j...Hmm.. its nature, not gender, I think. My son is just like your daughter. Very emotionally tuned. So is my dad. Me, not so much.DotThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16585795632537010150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-10053861468280259142009-03-10T09:54:00.000-04:002009-03-10T09:54:00.000-04:00@ M, thanks for sharing your experiences with your...@ M, thanks for sharing your experiences with your kids. It is just so wonderful to read all these different perspectives. C loves cooking too and D loves soccer. But they are isolated incidents. And for me, the eye-opener has been just how different the two are. I do agree though - who knows!Sujatha Bagalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02140274113596874518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-17098690687319707382009-03-10T09:40:00.000-04:002009-03-10T09:40:00.000-04:00@ Sands, wow! That's food for thought. @ Mallika, ...@ Sands, wow! That's food for thought. <BR/><BR/>@ Mallika, that's a hillarious story! And it's so cute your son loves to cook! :)<BR/><BR/>@ Chapati, yay! :)<BR/><BR/>@ K, thank you for sharing your experiences. Made for fascinating reading. I'm glad you said that different is not unequal and that there was/is unequality in the way women's work is valued. If the societal movement in the last Sujatha Bagalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02140274113596874518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-87668991228718317212009-03-10T06:56:00.000-04:002009-03-10T06:56:00.000-04:00I loved this on nurture v nature…….. I’m often cal...I loved this on nurture v nature…….. I’m often called sexist at work, which is social services (in Britain), looking after people with learning difficulties in residential care. I work mainly with women, and joke around with them a lot, often playing the seventies sexist male at my own expense. However, I do hold the view that, generally speaking, men and women are very different, and are Slurryoffagrapehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17616438111921039815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-77696356927946664822009-03-09T15:23:00.000-04:002009-03-09T15:23:00.000-04:00My "informed" opinion - it's a bit of both! :-) My...My "informed" opinion - it's a bit of both! :-) My daughter (the younger one) hates girly clothes and is happiest in jeans/shorts/loose t-shirts. Hates dressing up - but when convinced to do so (like for Navarathri or a wedding), wants to do so fully, with all appropriate accessories. Son doesn't particularly care about daily clothes (the top layer thing works for ALL males!), but actually likes Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-20912397074554533472009-03-09T13:22:00.000-04:002009-03-09T13:22:00.000-04:00Sands: That is exactly the same as my brother and ...Sands: That is exactly the same as my brother and I! <BR/><BR/>Sujatha: I'll write some childhood stories soon!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-72241698590850039622009-03-09T13:09:00.000-04:002009-03-09T13:09:00.000-04:00This post reminds me of something I read once. A w...This post reminds me of something I read once. A woman was trying to raise her daughter by having her play with trucks and trains, she didn't want her to be too girly growing up..she then found her daughter putting the trucks to sleep later in the evening! I thought it was hilarious. My 3 yr old son actually likes nail polish and loves to cook, I think he will turn out to be a chef!<BR/>:)<BR/>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-41560973739838850812009-03-09T13:08:00.000-04:002009-03-09T13:08:00.000-04:00I see it very different at home. I sometimes wonde...I see it very different at home. I sometimes wonder if it is first born versus second born rather than girl versus boy. My girl, the older one was never into dolls & make-up while the boy has always been big on boy toys & is extremely fashion conscious :)Sandshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08784622943080136626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-37994956055591638112009-03-09T12:55:00.000-04:002009-03-09T12:55:00.000-04:00Sylvia, thanks! Glad you liked it!Chapati, waiting...Sylvia, thanks! Glad you liked it!<BR/><BR/>Chapati, waiting for your memoirs of a tomboy! :)<BR/><BR/>NM, Kavi, thanks!<BR/><BR/>Chox, Sujatha seems to say what you're thinking. Whether there are siblings in the mix does matter, looks like. I'm sure both C and D would be different people if not for each other.<BR/><BR/>Ugich, yup, totally can believe the boring part!<BR/><BR/>Sujatha, your Sujatha Bagalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02140274113596874518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-72994215030826215372009-03-09T02:01:00.000-04:002009-03-09T02:01:00.000-04:00:) totally understood that bit about two kids of t...:) totally understood that bit about two kids of the same set of parents turning out totally different. When my sis and I talk about our childhood and time with our folks, you'd think we're talking to two totally different set of parents.<BR/>Nino has this habit too, and sometimes it irritates the life out of me, perhaps because I see it as his insecurity. He always asks where the mother and Nino's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14772512291327435370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-9968851090697040732009-03-08T19:00:00.000-04:002009-03-08T19:00:00.000-04:00Right now, D is mimicking your nurturing of her. W...Right now, D is mimicking your nurturing of her. Wait a little while till she hits the age of reason and watch her pick up on every thing her older brother does. That's what my daughter did too. She can sword fight like nobody's business, while setting up teddy bear schools and teaching them their math and ABCs.Sujathahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16602206543960349999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-43426877290944854952009-03-08T13:45:00.000-04:002009-03-08T13:45:00.000-04:00I think nature wins every time. Nurture is the fu...I think nature wins every time. Nurture is the fun part. And just think how boring it would be if all your children behaved the same way. <BR/><BR/>Having said that, I have known males. who are amazing in the way they take care of family; real nurturing types. <BR/><BR/>It takes all types. In the meanwhile, sit back and enjoy this growing -up-panorama that is unfolding in front of you.Ugich Konitarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15901335427613806798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-48758537056698355112009-03-08T06:21:00.000-04:002009-03-08T06:21:00.000-04:00D sounds so cute!i guess the environment for diffe...D sounds so cute!<BR/><BR/>i guess the environment for different sibs actually is very different. the parents and everything else might be the same but what about the absence/presence of an older sib?Choxboxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03741540918529448553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-83131148825012864742009-03-07T22:32:00.000-05:002009-03-07T22:32:00.000-05:00Nature trumps nature ! That was wonderful. I guess...Nature trumps nature ! That was wonderful. I guess children pick it up eloquently from their genes too !! <BR/><BR/>I quite like the last world. Never !<BR/><BR/>:)Kavihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11426040093753611098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-44783114436230674262009-03-07T17:43:00.000-05:002009-03-07T17:43:00.000-05:00Gosh, yr little girl is so much like my daughter w...Gosh, yr little girl is so much like my daughter way back, really! And my son's so opposite, like he's totally into cars, all kinds...and is not too vocal. Really, the experiments u talk abt in this post're so easy to relate to. It was a pleasure:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-69610165722395936752009-03-07T15:01:00.000-05:002009-03-07T15:01:00.000-05:00Haha I am the exact opposite of your daugther and ...Haha I am the exact opposite of your daugther and always have been (or as long as I can remember anyway) - and my mum is quite 'girly'.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-43322823916518010622009-03-07T14:37:00.000-05:002009-03-07T14:37:00.000-05:00Sujatha, really enjoyed your post this morning and...Sujatha, really enjoyed your post this morning and could SO relate! I have two boys and two girls, the girls are the oldest. I still find it hard to believe that they all had the same parents because they are all so totally different from one another and have been from the beginning and still are. It's been fun reading about your two! Thanks for sharing!Sylvia Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05484577678585907669noreply@blogger.com