tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post7144901580934389624..comments2024-02-09T05:30:07.127-05:00Comments on Blogpourri: Forgotten ChildrenUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-74507431780381635522009-03-23T17:09:00.000-04:002009-03-23T17:09:00.000-04:00I watched a woman on Oprah who had become the targ...I watched a woman on Oprah who had become the target of national hate after she left her daughter in the car by mistake. Her daughter died and as a result the woman lost her job as an elementary school teacher and people came up with the usual 'how could she' etc etc. I think what a lot of us forget is that with the good that is Parenthood there is also a lot of multitasking, trying to keep up Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-43046086826892748602009-03-20T17:23:00.000-04:002009-03-20T17:23:00.000-04:00I am very much in accord with everyone choosing em...I am very much in accord with everyone choosing empathy for parents and caretakers who find themselves in the horrible scenario painted by Gene Weingarten in his Fatal Distraction article. <BR/><BR/>My partner experienced her fatal distraction almost two years ago. Ollie and Zoie, her surrogate children were beautiful English Setters, were killed in their own driveway upon returning from one of Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03172557028095295295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-30258713256860099882009-03-17T12:24:00.000-04:002009-03-17T12:24:00.000-04:00Finger pointing will never solve this problem. Why...Finger pointing will never solve this problem. Why not study the situation and come up with precautionary measures to shun future similar occurrence? We cannot just forget this irresponsible behavior. I pity the helpless victims.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-35067267682552214942009-03-16T15:20:00.000-04:002009-03-16T15:20:00.000-04:00Wonderful. Very inspiring and strikes a chord.Wonderful. Very inspiring and strikes a chord.nsiyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03727614252106495292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-63258810826816066312009-03-16T01:58:00.000-04:002009-03-16T01:58:00.000-04:00My god. Your clarification just totally changed th...My god. Your clarification just totally changed the meaning, changed my reaction. I'm glad you put this story up, Suj.Nino's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14772512291327435370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-37188615406597340642009-03-15T21:58:00.000-04:002009-03-15T21:58:00.000-04:00Sujatha, I've only just discovered your blog (via ...Sujatha, I've only just discovered your blog (via Frankie's). What a thoughtful and thought-provoking article this is. I'm glad I discovered this blog!Pamposh Dharhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18071865154341978248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-20222648415527802672009-03-15T20:50:00.000-04:002009-03-15T20:50:00.000-04:00It does seem incomprehensible. But, then I think ...It does seem incomprehensible. But, then I think of the crazy things I've done or forgotten and realize that you are right - there but by the grace of God.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17480046958714954128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-65841957725231727042009-03-15T19:58:00.000-04:002009-03-15T19:58:00.000-04:00@ Ugich, the children are not left in the car lock...@ Ugich, the children are not left in the car locked up on purpose. The parents forget that their children are in the car and leave them there by mistake. There is nothing that requires them to leave a child in the car alone. I'm so sorry if my writing gave you that impression.<BR/><BR/>@ NM, I think I might have given you the same impression as Ugich. Sorry about that. The kids are not left Sujatha Bagalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02140274113596874518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-54142612374103085552009-03-15T13:52:00.000-04:002009-03-15T13:52:00.000-04:00This happened last year in the city where I live. ...This happened last year in the city where I live. My heart just broke for the parents, two professionals (doctors, if I recall)who were so tired and distracted. The dad thought the mom had taken the baby from the car. The baby was sleeping when he got to work and he just didn't realize she was in the back seat. It was so tragic. The parents were vilified in the press, but no amount of scorn or Frankie Anonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06093324566743581868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-51699214887143021612009-03-15T11:40:00.000-04:002009-03-15T11:40:00.000-04:00I can't relate to this in the sense that we're so ...I can't relate to this in the sense that we're so scared of leaving kids in cars alone here and at the same time, there is always someone to point it out - India's filled with concerned bystanders, but I can honestly imagine the hows that can make this happen, and how excruciating bearing the consequences can be.<BR/>Like you said, the first reaction was so guaranteed, but its so important to in Nino's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14772512291327435370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-12503483383764580752009-03-15T09:13:00.000-04:002009-03-15T09:13:00.000-04:00I am not sure I can imagine doing this either but ...I am not sure I can imagine doing this either but I would never say never. That is somethng that parents would never forget its true. I have heard of cases here where people have left children locked in the car while they go into the casino for hours at a time. Every case must be different. I remember I accidentally locked my daughter in the car once when she was about 2 and she was fast asleeep.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07413252016284990827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-42200165151440360192009-03-15T07:33:00.000-04:002009-03-15T07:33:00.000-04:00The trauma of a parent who has had to face such an...The trauma of a parent who has had to face such an event is a universal kind of thing. But what is not universal is the society that defines certain areas of life as <I>not </I> "kinderfreundlisch", prompting such events in a society where nuclear families is the norm.<BR/><BR/>I keep thinking of the growing migrant nuclear families here in India, and families carrying all their children on a , Ugich Konitarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15901335427613806798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-46270906957186229862009-03-15T07:30:00.000-04:002009-03-15T07:30:00.000-04:00I choked as I read this post- especially the last ...I choked as I read this post- especially the last two paras...cannot bear to imagine their state of mind...Ardrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10005169454353807178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-45691383659521344212009-03-15T00:08:00.000-04:002009-03-15T00:08:00.000-04:00To realise that you had forgotten would be even mo...To realise that you had forgotten would be even more cruel, i think ! <BR/><BR/>It indeed is raw and refined ! <BR/><BR/>Hmm <BR/><BR/>:)Kavihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11426040093753611098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13834351.post-8731091381018508742009-03-14T21:11:00.000-04:002009-03-14T21:11:00.000-04:00A very thought provoking post. I have wondered how...A very thought provoking post. I have wondered how a person could forget their child was in the car, not sure I understand, but can understand what a nightmare it would be to realize what you had. I have four and they are close together in age and at the time they were growing up the rules weren't as strict as they are now. It's possible I could have forgotten one, although I don't want to Sylvia Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05484577678585907669noreply@blogger.com